It's fascinating how, with a slight adjustment to our focus and perspective, we can enjoy a positive moment more, which means more enjoyment in our lives at essentially no cost (other than the effort of learning and practice). In other words, we can derive more enjoyment from positive experiences without changing anything about our lives. While it’s of course also often beneficial to make actual changes to our lives, I think most people underestimate how much we can enhance our lives through su...
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You’re right about everything
You're absolutely right. About all of it. The big stuff, the weird stuff, the "nobody-gets-this" stuff. Every belief you hold is, against all odds, completely correct. I know I said before that you were wrong, but it was I who was wrong! Here's proof:
1) Unlike others, you're self-aware. You know your limits, so - unlike other people - when you know something, it's true. You weighed the evidence they ignored and saw angles they missed. Corrected your own biases. Your unique perspective revea...
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Creating more moments of attention
You obviously only have a certain number of hours in your life - but what's slightly less obvious is that you have a limited number of moments of attention in your life.
When you pay attention to one thing, there is an opportunity cost - you could be paying attention to something else, like one of your loved ones, a meaningful project, your source of income, or a hobby you love.
When you get sucked into a dumb argument online or read an upsetting news story (that will never lead you to ta...
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Seven simple but effective methods for improving your connection with others
Here are some of the most useful simple methods I've adopted for improving my connection with others (though I still have room for improvement):
1) When you like someone, greet them warmly, demonstrating with your face and body language that you like them.
2) Try your best to channel "interested attention" in conversations - where you give the other person your total focus while paying very close attention to what they are saying (and how they are saying it) and starting with the prem...
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