A lot of psychological terms don't mean what people think they mean (at least, not according to psychologists). There's an increasing drift between how they get used colloquially in everyday language and the commonly accepted definitions among psychologists. There's a sense in which the lay usage is "wrong" (in that it doesn't match more scientific, precise, or technical usage), but of course, language has always been and always will be in flux. At the end of the day, a word does mean what p...