Many things in life are most effectively pursued by going after them directly (e.g., if you want coffee, make some coffee). But some of the most important things are most effectively pursued indirectly. For example: If you want to be happy right now, don't try really hard to be happy right now. Instead, do something that's both meaningful and pleasurable. If you want to find someone to fall in love with, don't go on dates with the goal of determining if you could fall in love with each...