Thanks for the comment! What I think may be ideal is trying to have an accurate view about the future, while simultaneously trying to reframe events so that our emotional reactions to them are as helpful as possible. So for example, recognizing that there will inevitably be setbacks in our plans (luck will sometimes go against us and our plans will fall apart), but simultaneously recognizing that we’ll have lots of tries to succeed, and so if some fail, we can try again. But if you’ve found a mind set that makes you happier, then as long as you aren’t going to be paying a high price down the road because of it (e.g. in the currency of disappointment), it may be worth sticking with what you’ve found works for you.

I guess that would depend on the goals we might have…I have found that being unreasonably optimistic about the future has helped me have a better mood in general in my daily life, which is a good thing. But, according to you, I will suffer more when I experience loss because my expectations about the future will be so far away from what actually will be the future.

I’m glad you’ve started writing on here again! Looking forward to the next post.